First thread near 100 posts, and my sitch has changed a bit, so I thought it would be appropriate to start a new one. Yeah, I'm being a copycat with all the music themed titles. I'm ok with that and the title is relevant.
Last thread, thought things were improving, but finally got to the point that I couldn't take the cake-eating anymore and checked myself out. Full dark, no stars.
Not really a lot to add today, as it's been 10 days of dark now. Spending part of today looking for new IC for my S14, as we aren't happy with his current one. Also feeling bad for SD19, as she's had some cr*ppy examples from W & I and her D. Between her mom's EA/PA (and SD hates OM) and dad molesting her, I truly hope she turns out ok. She seems to be, but I still feel that we've all failed her in some way.
Bought tickets today for a local event this weekend that W and I used to go to. Taking my boys, but there's a chance W/OM will be there. It does make me nervous that I might run into them, but I'm not going to hide behind rocks hoping I never see them again. It's my city too, I've lived here longer than both of them
It seems like people's sitch's here sync together and go in waves. For a while, lots of R, now, lots of dark. What the h3ll is in the water? Group hugs to all of us, we can surely use them!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
It seems like people's sitch's here sync together and go in waves. For a while, lots of R, now, lots of dark. What the h3ll is in the water? Group hugs to all of us, we can surely use them!
Funny, I notice that as well.
Oh, and a Pink Floyd reference is always a good choice
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
She's been seeing an IC since the whole thing with her father came to light (summer 07). Still on ADs, but she's got to be one of the toughest people I know. Going to school for nursing, did great in classes, scored well on admission test and still was still placed as an alternate for this fall(#1 at least). I thought this might break her or make her panic, but she's been tough and philosophical about it. She really is an amazing woman!
Going to see my own IC in an hour, first time since the letter. Should be...interesting.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
IC went well. At this point, not sure if he's pro-M or not anymore. That's ok, if it ever comes down to MC, we'll find someone else. My IC has met W and I don't think he thinks highly of her.
Country, the other topic choice was Run Like Hell
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
It's been 14 days since I've seen W, 11 since going dark. Yesterday I was ok with it, today I'm missing her and desperately want to contact her, like a recovering addict wanting just one more fix. I have the strength not to, but it doesn't lessen the desire.
Been reading a lot of other forums on infidelity, not sure why, maybe as a way of coping myself. It's amazing just how much it hurts, and amazing that the person who once told me she could never forgive me if I cheated went out and did it herself.
At least I didn't run into W or OM while out with friends last night. Old friend who I used to be really close to came out, it was great to see him. After talking for a while about sitch and upcoming plans, he offered to take W's U2 ticket and go with me at the end of the month. Part of me wants to take him up on the offer, part of me just wants to mail W's ticket to her and part of me wants to give both tickets away. Guess I have a few weeks to decide.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
It's been 14 days since I've seen W, 11 since going dark. Yesterday I was ok with it, today I'm missing her and desperately want to contact her, like a recovering addict wanting just one more fix. I have the strength not to, but it doesn't lessen the desire.
Been reading a lot of other forums on infidelity, not sure why, maybe as a way of coping myself. It's amazing just how much it hurts, and amazing that the person who once told me she could never forgive me if I cheated went out and did it herself.
At least I didn't run into W or OM while out with friends last night. Old friend who I used to be really close to came out, it was great to see him. After talking for a while about sitch and upcoming plans, he offered to take W's U2 ticket and go with me at the end of the month. Part of me wants to take him up on the offer, part of me just wants to mail W's ticket to her and part of me wants to give both tickets away. Guess I have a few weeks to decide.
Don't decide until a week or so before the concert LP. But if you are still dark, I'd definitely suggest that you GO with a friend. It is a great concert. Not worth missing for W's sh!tty choices.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Dont do it man. Im in the same boat as you. I havent seen my wife now for over 8 days and havent contacted her in one week tomorrow. And I miss the cheating blank so much right now but I WILL NOT contact her. Remember Our pact. Its very important that we dont let our emotions take control of our dialing fingers.
9
BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
