Denver, I would like to second what thatgirl007 has written.
I am a controller, but day by day becoming very aware of the limits of that control and the stress I putting MYSELF under.
Since I have been working the program I have, I have learned something that perhaps you can recognise and learn from too. People like us try to control our environment, the people around us, and events.
We do this because WE feel out of control and insecure interally. Then when this control fails or catastrophe happens our sense of security and certainty is shaken and our world gets turned upside down. We then turn into victims by allowing OUTSIDE FORCES to determine our happiness.
What thatgirl007 wrote in point 2 is key.
I have this posted in a prominent place in my home:
You are not the General Manager of the universe, your job is to remain open to new possibilities and let go of concepts of how things should work out.
Syclla,
From one control freak to another, you worded it perfectly. Spot on.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
