Gnosis - You are bang on. I needed to be angry with her to get anywhere. It's not consuming at all, but I am angry that she purposely mislead me, made my kids keep a secret and made me look like a fool in front of all her staff at the restaraunt. That anger also stops me from wanting to give her stil more chances. The moment I even start to miss her, think "what if", I think about what she actually did and how she ALMOST destroyed me. Then....my fog lifts and I am all better.
Learning and Nine - Just in case the above ever doesn't work, I consider the 3 of us in a no contact pact. The moment any of us thinks about contacting our WAW/STBX, we remember that we have 2 other people to answer to here and to also set an example for. There is strength in numbers.
