Thanks for the advice.. Its been a few weeks now and she now wants to take me off of the car registration, for what she says is insurance purposes. i told her that I would do it but there are some finances we need to wrap up and the car is my only leverage. I told her that she once told me that if anythign happened she wouldn't screw me over with the house and our assets. We agreed upon repaying me for the car deposit and winter tires i paid for. Then there is the washer/dryer and snow thrower we paid together. Which she all agreed on. Then she asked what else, and i said i have an accountant (my best friend) calculate out what equity i paid in the house considering all bills/expenses and the portion of the payments that went towards interest and principle on the mortgage. She said she was shocked i was asking for this, i told her we should get together and discuss it. I told her i need to protect myself too and can't give over everything without protecting myself. She said she will look at the spreadsheet which i think is very very fair, but that i should be careful not to insult her. That she made payments cheap for me to pay off debt, which i acknowledge and appreciate, but u still built equity in OUR life, or what i thought was our life at the time. I don't want this step to be the absolute end of our conversations and to screw over any chance to reconcile... but i need to think of protecting myself if this goes the wrong way. I dont know what to do.. do i just forget about it and sign off on the truck and not bother with the equity (just over 3k) and take the hit as i've been doing since she walked, or do i pursue this to get what i think is fair for the 4 yrs we owned the house.
