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Thanks 9. I appreciate your support.

Can you remind me what the previous plan was? Your W moved away, and you have your kids now, correct?

What was going to happen going forward?

The plan was to send my kids to NM with my W in mid-July. They have been with me since the end of March. If I live away from NM, then I would get them during summer breaks, spring break, Christmas and Thanksgiving. If I moved to NM, then I would get them 50/50.

I've looked at the job prospects for me in NM and I would be lucky to make a 1/3 of what I do here.

I think 50/50 is fair, but not at the expense of my career because of her choice.

I should have hired a L in Jan/Feb. Honestly, I feared stirring things up more and really upsetting my W. Plus I didn't want to drag my kids through a custody battle. Unfortunately I have no choice if I want to be in my kids lives.

The way 25 painted the picture, helped me see my role quite clearly and what I need to do. I have a meeting with my L next Wednesday to go over everything.