Since you have it make the best use of it. I haven't read your thread so this might be out of line, but there is one thing I know, so please consider this:
There is no longer "the two of you as one" therefore I hope that you ensure the correct interests are placed first and foremost, namely: You and the kids.
The last thing on your priority list is your now XW. Your own financial, mental and physical well-being come first. Get your priorities straight.
It took the Israelites 40 years in the desert to finally wake up. If you have any interest in a reconciliation down the road give your XW the desert. You are under no obligation to provide her "the mansion" anymore. Just the manna from "heaven."
You are under the obligation though to see that the kids are fed, well cared and raised appropriately.
I can only imagine the pain you're in right now. Take your time, it too will pass. Even though it does not seem like it right now, there IS life after this.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
