I see you finally reached the breaking point and cast aside your own fog. The truth, while it hurts like hell and destroys dreams, does provide clarity. And once you have clarity you are better equipped to make decisions.
If you remember, I gave up on you a long time ago. It just became too frustrating to observe your masochism and your blind philosophy of thinking you could DB and manipulate her back. The truth is you were DB'ing for her. Everything you were doing was for her and nothing about it was for you -- and that is where you went wrong.
Whether this was a long drawn out plan on her behalf or not is irrelevant. What IS relevant is that YOU chose to continue to allow yourself to be dragged around. While that was happening it didn't matter what people told you or not. Whether they were DB "pro's" or not. The truth is: you were doing whatever you FELT was right and if that didn't work you were blaming others for it. That's not how it works.
Make no mistake, I understand how painful and difficult it has been for you. Can you imagine how painful and difficult it was for others to watch you making the same mistakes over and over again? Then again, let's get this post back to being about you.
If you truly have let go then you should be sitting down and planning your new life.
List out your goals for the next 3, 6 and 12 months.
What are you going to do to:
1) Improve your relationship with the kids 2) Improve your career prospects 3) Improve your health & mental wellbeing. 4) Move on with your life etc...
- List out your goals - Break them down in to smaller steps - Arrange them into a project plan - Implement the project plan.
This is no longer about her, it never has been. It's always been about you and what you want - even if it was not good for you.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
