This is perfectly normal and should be expected. If you think the messages are mixed that she sends to you, just imagine how mixed up they are inside of herself. There's probably a lot of love/hate/anger/sadness and confusion going on.
It's not meant to be a trap, but you still want to stay on your best behaviour.
This will likely go on for a long time and you *will* get sick of it. When you do, you'll just need to suck it up a little more if you truly want to salvage your R.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011