2 years later it's still not getting easier

[AtTheEnd?]

I think it's time to move forward.

I have been on these boards for 3 years now and only know of a handful of spouses that have come back.
I would also "guess" that is only the men that come back.

Funny enough, I was discussing this very thing on another thread. This seems to be the consensus. The women rarely ever return. Once they are done, they are done for good. They never come back.

Part of my thread:

"There have to be changes in the person that left too. That person has to be able to acknowledge that they had a part in the deterioration of the marriage too. There are so many factors involved, perhaps that's why it's so very rare for a woman to return.

True change is very difficult for all parties. Someone has to be supremely motivated to do so, and even then, if it isn't for the right reason, it won't be true. There has to be enough time and interest from the partner that left to acknowledge and believe the changes. Ultimately, to come back means that the partner that left has some fault as well. This is too difficult for some to admit. That would mean the pain and suffering caused to the entire family wasn't necessary and that is too large of a burden to admit.

So many factors, the odds of anyone returning must be slim to none."