Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

I am trying to detach but its getting harder when he comes around everyday now.

Last night he came over to cut the grass. After he finished he swam with the D3 and S for a bit. He told me he will bring over dinner Thurs nite, wants to work on cleaning up the garage Friday nite and Saturday finish, swim a bit and then take D3 and S for the night. This means he filled another weekend of time to get himself through.

I'm not saying no. I am wondering if I should start saying no again. His coming around everyday is a great thing and I thought it was 'doing what works' but I don't think he is doing it because of me. I think he misses his family time with kids and the house, especially in the summer weather.

When I cut him off a few months back it made him more furious and said it was proof that he should D me.

Since I stopped refusing he has more contact. I probably need a 2 by 4 because I may be trying to control the timeline so it meets my terms, I know. But at the same time, its not right that he can come and go as he pleases and have no responsibilities. I feel I am being used some days even though I don't mind what he was doing at the moment/day.

Its been 2 weeks since we went on the 'meet', not date and nothing has been said since about spending one on one time again. Still no R talk and I know not to bring it up and I know he was clear that he wanted to take it slow. But slow is one thing, snail's pace is another.

I am not feeling my needs to move forward in any direction are met.