Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

CTH, I completely understand what you are saying, but as you know from being with me on this for a while, this is XH's MO. It isn't like with you where you have never been one to really talk to STBXW. XH has always called or more text me (he never really has to hear my voice) no problem. He will be really super overly involved with S and then over time will back off until there is nothing for a while. He will then get upset with me because S will act out with him or cry for me, and he will say he wants to be more involved and I will say I have never kept him away from you, which I haven't, and the cycle starts again.

This is the way XH has been the whole time we were together too, only it was longer cycles instead of shorter 3-4 months. He would have an EA, I would find out, I would break up with him, he would beg to have me back, he would continue the EA until I said I had had it, then he would break off the EA and spend a year fixing things and then we would have a good year and it would start back over. He has always had problems with full commitment and it is sad to see it happen with S.

It may also be that XH doesn't like being rejected all the time either. WHen S is with me, he is with me and doesn't want to talk to XH, but it is visa versa with XH, unless S is having a bad day and is crying for me. S doesn't do that for XH.

XH did drop off the child support in the mailbox yesterday so that was weird since he will see me tomorrow, but oh well.

I am not focusing on that really, just more updating. Things are still good with me and I just see a bright future with limitless possibilities.