Affair (continued II)

[ChrisW]

Hope everyone had a good holiday weekend!! It was hot here. So, I backed off the W....gave her space and she spent most of the weekend talking and texting me. I was shocked honestly, most she has spoken to me in weeks. Thanks for the great advice, glad I finally listened.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Glad the advice was good.

I was pretty sure it was.

And glad you listened.

[ChrisW]

Thanks Jack....however still preparing for the downturn. I know it is just around the bend.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Tell me when you find your tail Eeyore.

[ChrisW]

Funny you should call me that....W tells me that all the time. So does the Therapist. Guess there is something to it when a total stranger notices.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Hrnmm...

Well if your attitude comes through here, imagine how it comes through in technicolor?

Describe Eeyore:

To me, it is a person who is all: Poor me, Woe is me. Pity me.

Now in this, I meant that you were already looking for the bad, because the good couldn't possibly last.

Something to think about Chris.

Is the glass half empty or is it half full?

Though I never liked that question.

If it's raining I don't care about the glass.
If I'm in a desert I'm dancing a jig.

[~¤DG¤~]

"Now in this, I meant that you were already looking for the bad, because the good couldn't possibly last"

Chris, I am the same way when it comes to negativity and it is hard to overcome but you HAVE to remain positive.

I know, easier said than done, right?

[ChrisW]

Yes, I am sure that seeing that "poor me" routine everyday for years gets difficult. The Dr. gave it a huge name said I suffered from "Eeyore Syndrome". I thought she was joking wrote a me script and shoved me out the door. I hate pills but take them anyway.

The counseling has helped even if for a sounding board, but going to have to space the sessions some since my insurance [censored] and I pay out of pocket a ton. If it were marriage counseling I would gladly spend it plus some. She is still not to that point yet. Waiting patiently, seems like the convo's we have are very generic and about day to day stuff. But it beats the silence. So I am thankful for them....

[awest1217]

Keep giving space, but being there for her when she does ask or come around. Really that is all you can do right now besides continuing to work on yourself.

[ChrisW]

Yea awest, I continue to go to counseling for myself. I have been giving her space...as much as possible in fact. The mixed messages really confuse me though. For example she mentions things we need to again or in the future. She also asked me to move some days off around so that I could go with her and the kids to do something fun. She tells me this and then tell me that I disgust her and its hard to be in the same room with me. Is this normal or am I reading to much into the little things? Because I know that is a trap I want to avoid if possible.