Sooo......anyway I hit the road that very morning...half WAW/ half LBW......I landed in what i thought was a safe place, remember the temper, I was literally afraid for my life at a few points.
The point I'm trying to make is that i feel your wifes pain, I feel it to the core. I know sorry folks but I do. EXCEPT....one big exception there was never an OM....( altho there could have been one but I would not cross that boundary ) I knew that if I did our marriage was done on both our parts. We were apart for about 6 months, and neither one of us were unfaithful ( Altho honestly if I had felt love from someone else at this time I know I would have went with it ) Remember......as a WAW We were done months, months, and sometimes years before we left. I read where your wife said the very words that i was thinking at the time I left. " It's really none of your business what I do now "
I dont want to make this too long, I know your feeling really exhausted, frustrated, etc.... but i want to make one more point..........
Your question......." How does she see me in a new light if we are not talking or seeing one another ? " IMHO You guys have wayyyy too much contact..My husband went dark on me ( didnt know a thing about DBting ) He GAVE ME MY SPACE, he was cool calm and collected when we did have to have conversations....we have 2 businesses together .....other than that .....things were quiet, I did alot of personal searching, alot of alone time, and got some much need time away from him. She will see you in a different light just by stopping the pursueing...........Give her time...she said she had made a decision.....I believe it might have been in favor of your marriage...You won't know at this time which way she was going..but thats OK. Detach lovingly.
Too make a very long story short......... Those first two weeks to two months We had drag out drag down arguments.which to me makes your last interaction pretty mellow.
We got past that, put the divorce ( that HE INITIATED, on hold, dropped the divorce after I was home 5 months and are still a work in progress.
You talk about dating / another relationship / because your boundaries are being broken and this is something you can not tolerate......From Her... please think about this really hard Two wrongs don't make a right...( hubby's fav. saying ) Yes and I can say hubby after all these years, I fell in love with him all over again, and again, and again, after all these years.
I'm wishing you the very best, Your a very intelligent young man and U will make your own choices, Just be sure you can live with the choices U make. Hugs.....Cindy
