try not to spend a lot of time thinking how "wrong" this all is, and how unfair.
IT slows our forward movement and when you really think about it,
it's unproductive. Thinking positively and upbeat about your own future, is not going to hurt your cause.
Never believe that somehow you making the best of things is going to go against you. That's a lie we tell ourselves so we can stay stuck in our pursuit and our resistance of what is happening.
He's gone for now, and that's real. He may be gone a long time or even, for good.
If he had died suddenly, what would you do, once the initial grief had passed?
How would you look at life? Would you shrivel up and die? Give up on life?
No you would not.
So in a way, this is a lot about our egos. Nothing weird about that, but let's admit it.
We can deal with our egos. And you can be the author of your life (imagine your life is a novel...)
we know this chapter sucked...but how will the next chapter of your life go?
And the rest of the book/life?
I think if there is a chance of your h coming out of his fog, and returning, it's going to be by you backing WAY off and letting him go find himself.
That which we resist, persists...you don't have to assist him, which you already know. But no more arguing about it...seriously, it's pointless and it has not worked.
He has a "task" that you cannot complete for him.
Good luck
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