Received a call yesterday from my W. ... Then she started in on me about money again. I have given all I have and she still wants more. I told her I borrowed the money that I gace her. She thinks that I am hiding it. So then she gets real mad and says that I am supposed to meet her at her S house next week to sign a separation agreement and then I am supposed to file. I told her that I was not going to assist her in any way...She got even angrier at me and hung up on me.
Now today D17 calls and tells me they need money for gas and food. So I transfer some money into her account. W calls and is... scared/worried that she has no money and I don't get paid until next week. The old me would have told her that you made your bed now lie in it, however I just validated her and told her that I would try to get some more $$ to put into her account till payday.
Now as some of you have written on here, is this a battle that I want to fight...my answer is no....however once we get a signed agreement....I know she will still not have enough...where would you all draw the line....
First off, if you know you don't want to fight this battle, don't fight it. It's a temporary battle if you guys are about to have an enforceable agreement, which will outline expectations nicely so there won't be requests for additional amounts unless unexpected costs arise. That happens but you'll know it. I don't have enough information to answer your question about where to draw the line. I don't know your pay amount or your d's costs/expenses.
I did notice you blamed w for losing the house to foreclosure, b/c you say "she impeded d's chances for aid at college" as if it was something she did alone that you had nothing to do with. Seems odd.
I'm sure she does care about that. As do the girls.
How many girls are at home versus on their own?
How far away are you from them and how often are you getting the girls?
How are your GAL activities? The 180s? I know you said you refrained from punishing her in the money talk and that's really good.
But what are YOU doing on YOU?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
