Apparenlty I f'd up yesterday and should have just accepted that my W has renewed an A with OM. And not said or done anything.
Is that what the consensus is?
First of all, the choice is yours, and yours alone, but the 'consensus' has nothing to do with the opinions on what already happened. You can take everyone's opinion on that, including your own and throw them out the window. It doesn't matter, it's done.
What was being referred to is that many here have the same opinion one what you should start doing NOW. And that is, step away, remove yourself from this situation, and get back to YOU.
You said a lot of things to your W, and to a point you did paint yourself into a corner. Now I agree that you do not need to file for a D TODAY. I think you can keep your credibility by simply walking away. And credibility aside, it was what YOU need right now anyways.
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The consensus is that I have no contact with W. Yes. But is that the right thing?
Right for what? Right for who? But maybe a better way to think about it, how will contact help? What words will fix this?
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Yep. I have no idea what I want right now. Not to be in emotional pain 24/7? That would be a start.
Will more conversations like the one you had with your W help or hurt in obtaining this goal?
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But are we suppose to wait forever? This is my confusion. Where I am stuck.
Don't wait at all. Get your head on straight. Get your emotional balance back. Find things to work on. Continue to improve. This isn't waiting. This is working. Doing.
I have no doubt it will not be "forever" but it is also not a definable timeline. That is what you need to let go of.
This DOES have you stuck.
You still want to fix the M, and have it be fixed on a timeline you can set.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
