Journaling: I met with my L today. I have been dreading this day for the last month. I have delayed this process as long as I could. I was attempting to give W space and time, while I Db’ed me. W and I have so little contact that from an emotional point of view the D happened already. So it is time to proceed and work out an arrangement to split this partnership. At this moment I am pretty ok with it. I am sure W will still through curves my way and maybe a hard fast one.
The house may still be sold in a short sale, but I do have a reasonable chance at keeping it.
Talking with my L brought another bit of information I was ignorant of. W and I split the joint accounts back in January. I thought the account I had now was not marital property, it is.
For the last 6 months I have been living like a pauper. Cutting corners wherever I could to build a little emergency fund against the day W removed household items or we got back together and needed to pay down debt.
Well I have better things to do with the emerg fund than give half to W. Starting with buying our D books for next semester, sending our S some really good care packages, replacing the lawnmower, and laying in some food. I’m taking Mom and D to a nice dinner. There are repairs around the house to complete also.
I am not done. I am still standing. I believe W needs to complete this part of her journey before either moving on completely or stopping and looking back.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
