One day at a time...you already are acting as if he IS sober.
His comment about going cold turkey almost guarantees failure anyhow... he's clueless.
He is NOT in a 12 step program.
What you were doing was helping. Why on earth would you change a thing?
See, I don't get that.
When you see the tiniest movement on his end, which comes from you going dark and detaching,
the first thing you want to do is stop what is working...
Stop. Detach. Get on with your life...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
