It's Over

[ninelives]

Denver:

So sorry all of this happened. The writing was kind of on the wall in a sense that she was playing you a bit. The one thing that I really want you to get from this is that, THIS IS NO LONGER THE WOMAN YOU MARRIED AND FELL IN LOVE WITH. What i mean by that, a number of people suggested that maybe she was still seeing OM and repeatedly , you shot down those suggestions.

" My w would never lie about that" or words to that effect. Im not saying this as an " I told you so" phrase. Just expect the unexpected when it comes to the WAS. I told you my W denied a hundred times there was no OM and even swore on her chilren's lives once.

NOw that the damage has been done, please listen to 25 and some of the other veterens. It is a setback but the ball is still in your court. She did some major tap dancing towards the end of your conversations, almost like she was in panic mode because you were SO DONE with the marriage this time.

Let her experience that and feel what it might be like for real to not have DENVER or the possiblity of not having Denver. Throught this whole thing, she knows she has you and simply has to ring a bell and you will be there in a heart beat.

Stop THIS. She is a little scared in my opinion that you are done with her and is now losing all the power that you gave her and continue to do.

BE calm, be patient, be dark.

Denver , you know my sitch. I could have reacted with anger on at least 2 occasions when OM was involved but I chose the high road and didnt say a word to him on one occasion. IT hurt like hell and some people see me as being weak but landing in jail is not going to help my kids or my sitch.

I know there is a lot of advice to digest. Just be smart ok,

Thinking alot about you buddy. All is not lost.

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