But on top of that, I think I'm ready to start forgiving my W for the EA. I think I was holding onto the betrayal and anger so long that it was coloring every interaction.
It does. Just as your good emotions color your interactions as well.
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I'm also taking a realistic view of our marriage. I mean we've lived together for 16 years. I don't think we ever made a big show of saying good night - with a hug and a kiss, etc. Now I'm getting antsy because that doesn't happen?
Just smiling here, cause...Thank God.
This is really big.
To get upset about her not doing stuff she never really did before and thinking she isn't doing it to spite you... I am glad that you are looking at that with open eyes.
With that hopefully you won't be looking for 'slights' on her part.
"Why didn't she bring ME a Pepsi? She brought one in for hereself?"
Well...she never really used to, she isn't built that way.
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This this morning, I'm going to take the kids to day care and she stops me at my car and gives me a hug and a kiss. I was so surprise that the kiss was kinda off the mark.
The other morning...she was kind of squirming away when you tried to kiss her right?
So...what was different?
Betting it was your attitude, something in your demeanor.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
