Denver I've read your "convos" and I gotta tell you son, your emotions are on a leash and guess who's at the other end.
From what I've read, you may have a controlling fault, but she's the one that's controlling you - emotionally - her words, her actions, her silence, her inaction. You gotta get off that bus man.
There's a huge internal conflict for you to wrestle with. You like to be in control of a situation, but how can you be when your feelings are beyond your own control?
You want to be objective, calculating, systematic, patient. You want to love another human being as an act of the will and not based on your feelings.
This is going to take time pal, not 75 days, not 90 days; I mean real time. She is nowhere near ready for you. Let that sink in and get off of her leash.
The sooner you get control of your own emotions, the sooner you will be able to regain control of your future plans.
I would not presume to advise you specifically about SS or OM or bounderies or filing for D or anything like that, because you will know what to do, once those emotions are no longer controlling you.
FWIW, I've had my own knock down drag outs with STBXW. I doesn't accomplish anything and actaully makes things worse. It confirms their re-write of history, their jusification for their sins, their longing to be free from us, everything the BITS are fighting.
Take care buddy; you'll be in my prayers.
Pickle
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
