It's Over

[Jack_Three_Beans]

A few problems with not being LBS crazy anymore, is it's easy to tell someone NOT to be LBS crazy.

Why they shouldn't, the potential for damamge to themselves and others.

And no matter what happens Denver, if you stick around here and help others, you're going to warn others too and shake your head at them when they do the things you suggest they don't.

From my point of view alone, are you controlling?
I think so. Maybe not as bad as you were, but it is there.
If I believe that...even a little, it is multiplied in your wife. She expects it and is looking for it, and will assign that behaviour in places it doesn't even exist, just because it appears that way.

I cannot fault you for actions I took myself, so I won't. I'd ask others to recall their actions that if viewed now would have them shame-faced as well.

You did; it is done.

Many of the things can be described as heat of the moment words, on both your part and hers. Heat of the moment, anger and rage.
Not all of it...needs to be followed through, not all of it was logical.

How many days are left on your counter that you set up when you were logical?

When all this went down for me, I had a tough as nails no nonsense boss, who took me into her office, sat me down, and asked me what was going on. I burst into tears...like a five year old who skinned her knee.

It wasn't because I wasn't doing my job, but she knew something was going on. When I finished she told me, that her and her husband had gone through something similar.

"Everyone gets one big f-ck up, Jack. Now does that mean one night? Or one person until they wake up? Well that's up to you to determine."


That was over 5 years ago.


Its up to you to determine Denver.

To determine what 1 f-ck up means.




Own your part in what happened.

Did you break in?

Uhhh...yeah you did. Don't lawyer weasel out of the wording.

Would you have invited your SS out to breakfast if you hadn't wanted an excuse to get inside?


Own your part and actions Denver, no deflection and no Teflon.



Your conversation and texting.

Seems to me, she is calming down and looking to...I don't know be civil.

You have skills and advice.

You say you know things.

So...up to you.

I think if he leaves her alone, files, and solidifies himself, she may well come back. Just my take.

With the exception of filing, I agree with the Count.
Filing the paperwork, and Denver's, no offense, lack of patience are combination that I think will allow Denver to move forward that will only complicate this even further. My take is for Denver to finish out his self established deadline before really considering any filing.