don't forget her punitive ways... and that she's living in the past when it comes to her views of you.
Don't let her keep you in the past.
You owned up to what you did wrong, you changed it, so no more apologies for the past. (I am assuming you owned up to things to her, right?)
Don't convince yourself that you not being in your d's life is somehow good for d.
Your d will grow up thinking she did not matter enough to you. That's a deep wound and no matter what w says to her, that's just a fact.
Don't let that happen
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016