Detach Dog

[25yearsmlc]

She sent me the Happy Birthday greeting at 12:01 on my Bday and I am wondering what that was all about.

Nothing much, b/c it was the minimum amount of contact to send the thought.

Youngest said, that he and his mom would go and OM would probably get the bike there. Beyond that , its all speculation.

Get the STOP SIGN out and put it in your mind when you begin down this path. Ask NO questions of son when it comes to any of this. That really IS something you can refrain from doing.

And I cant for the life of me stop thinking about he. I was hoping that my birthday was going to be a Turnaround for me to a REBIRTH, but it has done the opposite. Or I have let it. Your answer is in front of you in your own words...

NOBODY wants to be stuck in pain. That is insanity however, try as I might, I cant seem to shake my sadness right now. And the pain is really intense.

25, I dont want this. I have been taking your advice by faking it till I make it infront of everybody, but in quiet moments, it hurts like hell. Really bad.

I know. And with all my admonitions about doing this, the fact is I did the same thing for awhile too. Longer than I care to admit. But I began to believe that my h was losing more than I was. I think I radiated that, once it had sunk in. And that eventually affected h...


MY W seems to have moved on and appears to be living her life. I dont think she has many regrets.

Two things I really wanted to tell you here...first, you are mind reading, to your detriment (you never seem to mind read in a way that isn't all great FOR HER...interesting, self inflicted stuff that is NOT REAL).

So that's just not even realistic and yet...remember, where the head goes, the heart will EVENTUALLY, follow. Keep your head straight and avoid the negative mind reading and assumptions.

I think she's a better actor than you AND since she is dating, the whole thing is easier to pull off for her. When you begin dating, if you do, or if you can really work up some mystery, I think things will change. More will be revealed when she actually fears losing you to another woman.

Second, and more important, Your success or Happiness as an LBSer is NOT related to her misery. You MUST Get this.

This is key. Your success and happiness is solely "measured" by what you create in your life. You are in charge of that.

9, what if your life were a novel? I think we know this chapter has sucked. But 9, who is the author of this novel?

You need to be the author of your life. You write how this Next Chapter goes...and YOU write how the rest of the whole book goes...

I hope this is just a passing thing for me and I get back to GAL and getting happy. Like I said before, to do otherwise is insane.

It is a passing thing, albeit a painful one. But the rest is true...GAL does work although your weird island situation is...weird. But you get this. You are simply having an emotional backslide.

Guess what? YOU DID NOT ACT ON IT....THAT'S PROGRESS MY FRIEND...it really is.

IM not sure what Im asking for here. My chief focus is to NOT let her see how much I am hurting and not to have any negative convorsations with her.

Yes it is, PLUS the other stuff you are hearing here.

9

As the GREAT "philosopher", Christopher Robin (yeah, that kid from Winnie the Pooh) said...

"You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think"