Clear cut certainties? LOL The only "clear cut" certainty that I have in this life is that some day I will die. Before I reach that certainty, I do wish to be as happy as possible. I am terribly sorry about your illness, you and I have talked about it a little in the past, we share a somewhat common illness, so when you talk about life expectancy, know this: We are not guaranteed one minute on this planet. You or I either one could get out of our chair and drop dead. God takes us when he wants us, no need to worry about it, live you life to the fullest! With all that being said, I wish to spend my life with people who are good to me, not wasting it with those who are selfish and wish to do harm. I don't dwell on the past, its already gone, today is what counts. What we were before is not what we are now. I was just curious what you hoped to achieve. Being here for so many years I see a lot of these people trying to keep contact, not for a reconsiliation or friendship, but to keep the LBS in the drama. Anyway, I hope you get what you want out of it!