Careful SL... those types of thoughts can lead to A...
Just thinking out loud here, though. I'm guessing your ask these rhetorical questions in regard to a spouse, rather than in regard to other relationships... like parents, siblings, friends...
My trouble right now is giving the contact to the friends and family that have missed me for the years I was M and made myself less or unavailable to them. I'm still doing a lot of "keep myself busy; need to make money" stuff... I do, of course. But I also need to be less selfish of myself and make myself available to those in my life who DO want me around and enjoy my company.
