You can only love someone you respect. You can only accept love when you have your self-respect, which is why people shape their "truth" to feel that they are "good" people. In the end I think that's why we do what we feel is right, b/c without that we feel unworthy of the love we need. Be strong and calm MK, and think long-term. The negotiations take a while, but your daughter will want and need you in her life long after that.
