It's Over

[cat04]

Denver,

I am not going to go over everything that 25 said. For the most part I agree with her.

I do want to suggest that you really go back and read what your W said to you.

Then go back and read your threads. All of them.

Your W, was very honest and blunt about her thoughts and feelings. And she has every right to feel that way.

You are still trying to control her.

I get the boundary. I get it. No one wants to live committed to someone who isn't committed to them.

However, your hard line is one that is not serving you well right now. In reaching your goal of reconciliation as well in reaching forgivness.

You are NOT showing unconditional love right now. You are not showing the "new" Denver it doesn't seem.

I see impatience, frustration, anger, control, self pity, and I also see you making threats that I don't know if you want to keep.

You were wrong in going into her house. Gutty feeling or not. It is NOT your house, and you don't own her. You don't know what, if anything happened or didn't. You made assumptions and jumped to conclusions after you violated her right to privacy and security.

Just because she is married to you (I use the term loosely), that does not give you Carte Blanche access to her life. She is a human, not a possession, however, you keep treating her like one.

Think about what comes next, because you have a lot of work to do still...


Good luck.