I've got three more days before I'm having my satellite turned off ( June 3rd ) I won't need this expensive thing when I move into town. I will try to stay up by checking in on my lunch breaks at work. Trying to trim everything I can before the move. Turned the bloody hot water heater down to 97 degrees. Air conditioner set on 79.
Still no word from Xh. Accidentally, ( I swear to God, I didn't mean to, didn't know) typed in old ID and P/W when I went to pay credit card bill, and pulled up XH's accounts. He has 3 cards with same company, and owes $2000.00 for which he is making payments here and there. He never was any good at money. I was so surprised, I thought the company had made a mistake and called them, to be told I had signed in under our old account, which he has never apparently changed. But, since I was already in . . . . He has racked up the entire bill on crap and pleasure trips. And I'm taking luke warm baths.
Had to buy two new back tires for the truck, and that was almost $300.00
Not to biotch. I have a roof over my head and prospects for a new one in my immediate future. I have a job, good friends. I know I have nothing to complain about at all. God has been very good to me. I will make it with Aces!!!
Long story short, my posts may become few and far between for a few weeks, but I'm always here lurking!
Hi Punkin, like you I am thankfull that I have a roof over my head, a good job, great family and friends. However, I too get mad when I see that H has been spending his money on himself and OW. Its selfish and irresponsible. But there is nothing we can do about it. My H has racked up about 15 - 20K in cc debt in two months. He's been on holiday with OW twice (going on his third this weekend).
Sometimes I think why would I want him back. I would be the one paying his debts off. Paying the debts for holidays he went with OW. Why would any sane person do that?
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
Thanks for visiting my thread. Girl, your H really went off the deep end of the pool. You are absolutely right, why share his financial disaster? Three holidays with OW? I couldn't get my XH to go out to dinner, and now he's traveling to see OW in barrel races. (He despises anything Country)Go figure.
Yes he has hasn't he! Tonight he told me he's going into the city tomorrow to pick up 3 brand new Hugo boss suits. He also bought a brand new tv, dryer and other appliances for his apartment. What a life hey!
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
RNP - they feel utterly entitled to anything they want. They have felt worthless at their inner core for a long time [and no they didn't share this with us]. He feels superior to the OW, able to give her a good time, and not able to see that women who sleep with married men are pretty problematic.
Eventually it all comes crashing down around their ears, even if they go ahead and marry OP. I have seen this both on and off the boards. But as I am finding, by then all we feel is compassion for all the hurt and pain and grief. The utter pointless waste of their lives [and their money].
In the meantime we have grown up, and probably do not really want an emerging adolescent, although there are magnificent men and women here who take their broken spouses back.
Okay, so here I am at home in the middle of the dagnab day because someone called the office, I answered, they asked a quick question and hung up, but I SWEAR it was my XBIL. After 20 years, I know his intonations, patterns, etc. I ran for home expecting another home invasion.
I can't keep living this way!!!Feeling like I need guard dogs. The sooner I move out of this house the better! I feel I have to stay here for awhile just to assure x doesn't drive up in a trailer and break into the house. I swear if I had a bidet he would steal it.
Guess I'll hang around for an hour or so and see if he shows up. UGH!
Off to work today. With the couch up against the locked french doors, as well as a bungee cord wrapped around the knobs. Chairs under all the other doorknobs. What a life.
jeshhhhh, Ya been there done that, with a loaded shotgun in the closet! shhh i didn't say that out loud. Things will get better Punkin, You'll find a time in your life when you can look back and be glad you've left the craziness behind.
Your strong, intelligent and beautiful....esp. on the inside Wishing you the best.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this punkin. This is aweful. I'm gonna read through ur entire post this weekend to understand your history. But in the meantime take care my friend.
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
