Need help...don't know what to do...

[chris1102]

I had my GAL this past weekend. I went out with a now really good guy friend that I used to work with for his birthday at a bar. First time in awhile that I had fun and danced. The only thing is pictures were taken of me and him together and posted on facebook from his birthday and my exroommate seen them along with my H and they both got jealous over it. I was not out to make anyone jealous, I was just out to have to fun and be with friends. I had a really good night friday. Saturday I spent time with my BIL and got breakfast and told him about friday. He went on facebook and seen my ex-roommate had changed her profile pic to a pic of her and my H. She also decided to post a pic of the two of them acting like they were kissing because they had their lips puckered and really close to each other. I got mad, told my BIL that he shouldn't have shown me those pics. It took me alittle while to calm down and then I kind of starting laughing about it. I called my friend and asked if he had seen it and he said he did. The ex-roommate sent the friend a text and said sorry I was not there for your birthday but you know why. He said I know. The thing is she wasn't invited and didn't even know I was going to be there. Me and the H were texting each other back and foreworth today. I knew he was upset about me being with another guy.I acted as if I had not seen the pics of the two of them. I had mentioned that if I didn't believe we could get through this I wouldn't be praying every night. He says, " I don't know what to believe anymore." To that I reply, It's ok, I know it is all very confusing right now. It felt pretty good to flip every negative comment into something either neutral or positive. He didn't know how to take it compared to how I normally respond to him. He usually likes to throw in there somewhere that I shouldn't have gotten everyone involved by I beat him to it by saying, "No one is in this M but you and me that's it." He is freaking out right now because I told him towards the beginning of the month my dad was going to help me get a divorce in June. All he can think about is "your dad is doing whatever he can to make sure you get everything." (Funny how he thinks my dad is pushing for a divorce when he is waiting on me to give the ok to pay for it when I'm ready.) The Business and the van are mine." (He still hasn't understood the concept of marital assets.) I was trying to soften his defensiveness about everything by telling him that I understand and I'm not trying to play games with him. I know we both have been hurt in this. Sometimes, it can be hard to deal with a H who is really sensitive and that I think has depression (hasn't been tested for it but M has it and pretty sure he does too). It took all I had to keep from telling him I love him being I slipped and said it the two times we have seen each other in february. I know the roommate is making him freak out and make me out to be the bad guy and that I'm trying to take everything. All I really want is our dog (like a son to me) and my H back and the roommate's name off our business. I don't want a divorce, not sure how long I should leave the H in panic mode... I was kind of laughing how the convo ended though,
me: and no one is in this marriage but you and me that's it
H: I have my hands full now I can't talk I will text some time later I think
Me: ok sounds good