That's complicated. No, I wanted her all the time . . . but by the time she got pregnant (our teenage twins were adopted, so her first pregnancy was seven years into the marriage) we'd been in a sex-starved marriage for years already and I was desperate. That was also before I found this place and began to make any progress . . . so I don't know what it would have taken to make me less desperate for sex with her, but pregnancy did not do the trick.
She was quite annoyed by that; she was miserable during pregnancy and would have been quite content to be left alone. At the time, she might even have been hoping it would slow me down.
