Maintaining contact with H makes it difficult to detach, but it can be done. However, if you think the contact is impeding your ability to detach, you need to limit your contact. Right now, your focus needs to be on you.
Originally Posted By: RedNailPolish
Ive gone dim/dark whatever you want to call it. I dont call, email, text. I only respond very politely to what he asks. Im GAL. I look fantastic. I go to the gym most days. I just started baking. Im gone back to church. I pray every night. I look after S3. I play and do fun stuff with S3. I read and read some more. And now what?
What do you mean and now what? Isn't that enough? You look fantastic. You have a life. You're enjoying your spirituality. You are enjoying life with your son.
Are you saying you are only doing these things in the hopes that it will get H to come back? Are you saying that unless H steps up and realizes what he's done, all these actions are pointless?
Yes, those are hypothetical questions since I'm sure you didn't mean it completely that way. However, be careful of how you are viewing your life. You are viewing it as incomplete without H. And while all of us on these boards can empathize with that, you have to get past that. Your life must proceed without H and without expectations. You can't keep waiting for the other shoe to drop and for H to "snap out of it". You've read my thread. My H has "kind of" snapped out of it and is STILL totally in the middle of it. This is a LOOOOOONG process and you are but a young'un.
Keep your focus on you.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
