Awww, am I the only one seeing the white elephant standing in the room? Is it just possible that his lashing out like he did, his true anger was at someone other than the ex gf or her Mom?. It seems his statements might have been aimed a bit closer to home, but he is not quite up to stating it.
I assume son is not blind to what has been going on with his parents and probably knows more than you would wish. His anger might have been more directed at the woman standing next to him with her head down. Just sayin' . . . .
Otherwise, I think you handled things beautifully, Eric, and wish my XH could have been so wise a father figure. I do agree with JTB and Pei, but it is far easier to say than to do when it comes to the protection of our own children, even if we know that is the 'tough love' that they need. Their hurt is our hurt x 10.
