I would say stop taking temp checks on your W it is like constantly looking for ways to hurt yourself because we get the answer we should expect but don't want to hear.
It is hard but it serves no purpose at all.
Why are you doing all the "right things"?
Because you want a certain outcome?
We all want the same thing or at least we start wanting the same thing but if we do not do them for the right reason then eventually our true colors will shine through because the changes are not real.
I am not saying we need to make all the changes as LBS but we can only work on ourselves. In the long run if you ever want a healthy R with your W she will have to look in the mirror also.
Feeling angry?
We have the right to feel angry.
I think sometimes we forget that. After all they walked out on us.
But
We can spend all our time being angry about that or realizing that we contributed to the end of the M/R and start to look inside at what we can do differently. Not because we want them back but because they are changes we need to make. If we don't I hate to say we will all be return visitors here at some point in our lives
