No 9, you are completely right.

I'm just wondering now if I can really do both.

My intent when all of this started was to be there for her, and a friend through a rough time.

The problem is it sucked me in.

While not the intent, it HAS created expectations and it HAS gotten me more attached.

So I need to ask myself what I can handle.

It's been almost a month since her dad died. She has her family as support. I think it is time I back off. Simply for me.

I need to regain my focus and patience.

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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.