Whoa! I didn't say throw him to the wolves (nor did I insinuate that you should throw yourself to the wolves to teach him a lesson) ... and sure, you folks live in a much more litigious society than I do, so I sometimes forget about that side of it. HOWEVER, I still think that apologizing ON HIS BEHALF is the potential mistake here. You can have a conversation with her, explain your intention and actions as his parent, express your own remorse for the situation at hand etc. But you said you were calling her to apologize on his behalf. I'd want him scared. He should be. He acted like an a$$. Oh, and having him confront her? Who said anything about confronting? If it's too potentially explosive to have him make the apology in person or via the telephone ... a good old fashioned letter might be the answer. I'd also make him put it in the mailbox in person ... but I'm kinda "mean" like that
Just my 2 cents E ...
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
