Appreciate the response and I see your point. I did call to appologize initally, as the x girlfrients mother was quite upset. That said, I did tell my oldest son that he would need to appologize directly to the mother.
So...I did "save" for the time being given the sensativity of the sitch (I was amazed and disgusted at what my son wrote), AND made him accountable.
Eric
You saved him from the true consequences of his actions by being the buffer. Now when he apologizes he won't feel the impact. You can "I know, I know" your way through this one if you want E, but I'm sorry ... I still see it as saving and fixing. Sensitive or not, it was HIS responsibility to mend the fence ... now he's not accountable, he's going to merely go through the motions, all the while knowing Daddy already took care of it and softened whatever consequences (her outrage/reaction) might be naturally occuring.
IMHO of course
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
