I'm starting to get impatient with the lack of movement in any direction on this sitch. We're nowhere closer to D so I should be happy but I feel like weeks are slipping by with no progress and there should be something I could be doing better to fix it.
My guess is that in H's mind, we are getting closer to D as he will likely try to ask me to post-date the "date of separation" to when he left in May and consider what's going on right now our 3 month cool down period.
Anyways, going dark is not the answer and I learned that last time. However, it's so hard to have conversations with him and I struggled with this last time as well. I initiated a light discussion last night of the "hi how are you" sort. For the first time since this sitch started, he actually asked how I was doing. I'm trying to use these as opportunities to show a good mood, give him little glimpses as to what is going on in my life, etc. Then I ended the conversation after a few minutes.
I guess I just sit back and wait. Last time I did this I got a good response - so I guess I wait to see if the test works this time too. If so, I'm not sure how often to have these conversations and how to work things like validation and words of affirmation into them more...
