7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[ericmsant2]

A much better relationship than I had.

With JUST HER or with everyone in YOUR life? The answer should tell you something.

TRUST

Learn to trust YOURSELF first. Learn to trust your instincts.

Am I codependent ? Possibly to a point.

And what are you doing to address it?

I really have no fear of loosing her because at this point I don't have her.

Good cause she is married to someone else right now. Question is….do you have fear of facing life without her?

I was doing very well for the last seven years without her.

Yet you bring her back into it…which has caused some level of distress to YOU. Why David? Why?

I do want female companionship in my life but I don't want the drama

Really? How do your recent actions support this? From what I see, you achieve the female companionship portion but you added the drama piece as well.

This doesn't mean I am not willing to work to make a relationship work.

IF that is how you feel….fine. Ask yourself….how does her husband fell right now? What justifications did HE give himself in the past? Hmmm….to me it sound like you are justifying your actions. All because you do not want to face things in your life, which is YOUR choice.

My life would be much more peaceful and serene if I were to give up the whole mess, ( X, kids, grand-kids, house ) and move on and only concern myself with my life and well being.

So If I am to understand this comment up there^^^^^^^ - You know what to do to have PEACE in YOUR LIFE….and that is to give up the whole mess. So what does give up mean to you? You know you can be a caring person yet not allow people to drag you into sitchs that you do not want to be in.

Providing and caring for my family as well as her.

Providing IMO, also includes TOUGH love buddy. If my son became a crack head….would I give him a pipe and say…as long as you do it under my roof, your safe? Nope. How does that help him?

I have suggested counseling for us alone and as a couple and have yet to get her to agree.

A couple? WTF…Maybe you can suggest counseling for HER only.

I don't give up on anything easily, especially family

I wouldn’t either….especially once I learned the difference between FEAR, CONTROL, MANIPULATION and TRUE LOVE, which IMO, allows other the ROOM and FREEDOM to live their lives.