The more you bring up the anniversary with W, the more she will focus on how the anniversary is not what it should be, how the marriage is not what she wants, how disappointed she is in how things turned out.
Do NOT (sorry LP) get some "generic" lame anniversary card. It highlights the sad state of your marriage, is a desperate sign of pursuit, and a sign of lack of respect for your W's own position. It is not productive.
My advice is to try to have no further contact with W today and to do nothing further about the anniversary. Make plans with a friend, go to the gym, avoid W.
