I wish you had a tape recording of that call b/c she could actually LOSE custody if a judge heard that. IT's the type of behavior courts FROWN UPON HEAVILY...
Funny, my family tells me to do it. I thought i'll take the higher road and try to be reasonable and moral. I dunno now. Maybe i'll talk to my lawyer and see.
Karma,
Your obligation to "take the high road" is mistaken. Replace that thinking with "In every situation, DO THE RIGHT THING. Do the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing right in front of me."
Your obligation is to your DAUGHTER first, and YOURSELF second. Or, if you like the "put the oxygen mask over your own face first, so that you can then help your child" analogy, to yourself and then your daughter. You are not responsible for your wife's legal or financial positions anymore.
There's a reason they put that little "v" between the names of the parties in a divorce action. It is, by design, an adversarial process. 25 is giving you great advice here: let your attorney handle these things. When your wife tries to suck you into the convo, say "That's an interesting proposal, but I'm going to let my atty handle all of that. I really don't have any experience in this divorce stuff, and I really trust him/her on these matters."
