Thanks, getting2work. It's remarkable how much more valuable it is to me to hear a vote of confidence from others who are going through the same thing than either to hear that from my dearest friends. I think before I can really believe in happy days in my future, I have to get to WANTING them. Right now, I am so resistant to letting go that I'm sure whether I'd prefer to grieve forever if at least that means the marriage isn't entirely in my past.
sometimes the answers are in front of us and we wrote them ourselves.
At some point you'll get sick & tired of feeling sick & tired. Some people have a bigger capacity for long term misery than others. Some are absurdly impatient.
You decide.
And if it's about hope and waiting that's not so hot. But if you are referring to actual DBing, well it sounds as if you have not given That approach much time.
And for reference point on time, see my signature block.
Like you, if you are honest, I was not miserable the whole time we were going thru our ordeal. Yes there was intense pain for a long long time but there were some laughs and hugs with my children and friends and family too....
The DBing seems relatively new to you. I'll read all of your posts before saying anymore.
Hang in there
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
