Rebuilding a friendship...Thread #4

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Had a pretty big backslide today. This morning I asked W to go to the park with kids and I. She told me her back hurts. Things have been wearing on me lately and I reacted to her...didn't say anything, but I walked around the house in a bit of a fuss. [bold] She picked up on it right away and got pissed herself. I tried talking to her about it but she just got more mad[/bold]. Then she ended up leaving the house, and I left shortly after to take the kids to the park. When I got home she had moved all of her stuff out of our room and into the basement.

Oh man we had some of these. Looking back now, it seemed like we had gotten to a point where both of us were walking on eggshells. We had a closer connection before things started going bad and we lost it. Somehow we could not ignite those feelings. In our case my wife used to take off the wedding ring and give it back to me.

It's basically going to be I don't ask her to do anything....she said she feels pressured into doing things when I ask and worries I will get upset if she tells me no (like I did today).

My wife too got to a point where she said that she started worrying about conversations with me. I think the moment conversations with your mate become stress events the detachment starts. You might have to do things to reduce that emotional distance with her. For me it was hard to do as i slowly started resenting wife. So watch out for those negative feelings that might start creeping up. Look at the big picture.

For almost 6 months we had this weird pattern that once in 2 weeks on a friday we would have an argument and things would go back to square-1. Its normal. You are trying the best you can to keep the family together. Don't be too harsh on yourself. Right now you've got to keep your spirits high because you cannot expect positive encouragement from your wife.