Rebuilding a friendship...Thread #4

[Navyguy]

Karma...thanks for the advice...i am doing my best. It is incredibly hard though.

Had a pretty big backslide today. This morning I asked W to go to the park with kids and I. She told me her back hurts. Things have been wearing on me lately and I reacted to her...didn't say anything, but I walked around the house in a bit of a fuss. She picked up on it right away and got pissed herself. I tried talking to her about it but she just got more mad. Then she ended up leaving the house, and I left shortly after to take the kids to the park. When I got home she had moved all of her stuff out of our room and into the basement.

This led into a long R talk, where she reminded me that she is done and is only here for the kids. We ended up talking about what the arrangement is going to be with her downstairs. It's basically going to be I don't ask her to do anything....she said she feels pressured into doing things when I ask and worries I will get upset if she tells me no (like I did today).

I also had IC this afternoon. She thinks W's actions today were childish. I again tried to defend W and explain her perspective. IC didn't buy into it....so again I left more upset. I don't think that IC gets the idea of wanting to be married more than wanting to be right.

Very Painful day. Thinking maybe I went off the AD meds too soon....pretty much back to square one with W too.