I think the entire post was about what HE is doing/thinking/planning/texting, until your last sentence.
Even as you write of things you are learning in Al Anon and the DB books, it's still all about him.
Let's hear more about what YOU did that does NOT relate to him, and see where that takes you...(meaning where it takes you in life, not where it takes you vis a vis HIM)...please.
I think you can get this...
It's called FREE WILL
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016