The big punch - Redux

[Redo]

25, thanks for your feedback.

I wish you had a tape recording of that call b/c she could actually LOSE custody if a judge heard that. IT's the type of behavior courts FROWN UPON HEAVILY...

Funny, my family tells me to do it. I thought i'll take the higher road and try to be reasonable and moral. I dunno now. Maybe i'll talk to my lawyer and see.

Don't you dare back off with the lawyer BUT don't engage with her.

Oh believe me i have no intention of backing off from the lawyer. The difference is like walking and now having a car. I really like my lawyer.

Tell her ONCE (actually you may have to repeat it a lot, let it become your mantra to sink in with her) that

"W, you took our daughter away from me AND now you are using our d as leverage against me. This is why I have a lawyer."

You left me no choice.

She taxed me last night and was asking me not to punish her because of her decision. She feels that whenever i say that 'the choice was hers', she feels that i am punishing her. I dunno, maybe it was a soft spot, but i agreed that i will not bring up the fact that it was her choice. And honestly the way things are going, i dont see any reason of saying it. Earlier i thought that she might realize that it was indeed her choice. But right now i really don't care. I'll leave to god to make her realize.

Sorry myk, it's a real bummer. But she cannot stay on this course UNLESS YOU LET HER...she will lose most of these issues AS LONG AS YOU KEEP THE L...

I am concerned you think having a L has made things worse. That's like saying lifting your hands to fend off blows when getting beaten up, is somehow wrong. It's not. She really has left you no choice.

25, of no the lawyer did not make it worse. I was saying that i thought that these would totally go away. Wrong expectation. Also it was my fault in talking with her about these. Now i know better. I am consulting with my lawyer for every thing now. And i'll redirect her to my lawyer now.

Thanks 25. I really thank you for making me see the benefit in going through a lawyer. Honestly if i had done this alone, i would have caved in long back and just agreed to everything she wanted.