on a side note - does anyone have any idea how long it takes, or how many posts are required to become unmoderated? I find myself having so much to say all the time, but hesitate as I know it will be weeks potentially before I get any feedback. I understand the need, just wondering how long. Also I often feel drawn to other posts but hesitate to respond as I am afraid it will show up days later and my response won't make sense as its so out of date. I also feel totally inadequate to respond - like who am I to give advice, obviously I suck at this marriage crap lol.
