He has left me AGAIN!

[K4D]

Tipper,

I was a former drunk for years. It took my W wanting out of the marriage for me to wake up and start making changes. And the road to changes was a long and painful one with misteps along the way. But I made it out of that world.

Had she not left me, I would have seen no reason to stop as I was just floating along in life. It was the best thing she did for me by no longer enabling me. It forced me to grow up and become responsible in life and be a responsible father to my kids.

Sometimes what seems like the hardest thing to do, can be the best thing to do for your own sanity and for the well being of that person stuck in a rut.

I'm not advocating divorce. But I am agreeing with the others to make sure you are not enabling him by allowing him to continue this path with you.

I also do not believe alcoholism is a disease. At most, it's a poor unhealthy coping mechanism. But it is a choice. Some people do require hitting rock bottom before waking up and making a different choice in life. Sad.

I think you are now on the right path if you can stick to it.

Good luck,

K