MZ- found the article. It was interesting, but it seemed they did the study with only women's tears and how the smell of them lowered testosterone. There was an interesting side note about tears effect on oxytocin levels.

I am all over the map today. I noticed the Wife is on some sort of pull back mission and it's p1ssing me off. I know it shouldn't be and I know I shouldn't read into it. But really she has affection for others, just not me. Based on based experience, she knows what she is doing.

Here is where I get annoyed. My W tells me what she needs - no drama, no r talk, a fun happy H, no fights, no getting mad, space etc. So she gets ALL that...does it change her behavior. NOT ONE BIT. In fact she seems to pull back on the physical affection even more. WTF. Thanks a lot.

Which in turn feeds my anxiety, causing me to have wild thoughts and I don't want to put in the effort myself.

I'm trying to break the cycle, but it's hard by myself.


Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.