You and I are in similar situations, and I just wanted to tell you that going dark and staying there has helped me for the most part. I still have bad moments or even bad days. But, for the most part, staying dark has helped ME. I too struggle, with the whole, "This isn't changing the situation" thing, but it really is, because I am not on the crazy rollercoaster with him!! It has caused me to remain focused on me and my D16. It has afforded me the opportunity to determine what I need to do for me. MLC is their issue, we can change it, we cant knock them up side the head and get rid of it. MLC is a journey and process they have to do on their own. It doesn't matter what we do because we are damned if we do and damned if we don't!! So, just take care of you and your S3.
Blessings!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
